The Artisans of the Collaborative Divorce Process: The Financial Neutral | Divorce Attorney Andrea Vacca | Vacca Family Law Group

Part 1 of a 2-Part Series

I recently heard the analogy, “Attorneys in a Collaborative Divorce are like the general contractors.” The lawyers know the law and what issues and problems need to be solved, but they do not have the level of financial expertise, nor the level of emotional expertise, that the couple will need to solve those problems. This is the reason why we bring in specialists and experts – the artisans – to help deal with the many details of the new family structure/entity that the Collaborative Divorce team is helping the clients to build. The lawyers have the responsibility to learn what the clients need so that they can bring the right craftspeople to the project. In this blog, I will discuss the expertise that the Neutral Financial Professional brings to the collaborative process. In my next blog, I will discuss the expertise that the Family Specialist brings.

I want a divorce financial professional on all of my divorce teams so that I can make sure the family’s post-divorce financial foundation is properly built and will be able to sufficiently provide for the couple and their family for both their short-term and long-term future.

Vacca Family Law Group Attorneys Selected as 2020 New York Family Law Super Lawyers

Andrea Vacca Named 2020 New York Family Law Super Lawyer

Andrea Vacca Named 2020 New York Family Law Super Lawyer

Divorce and Family Law attorney Andrea Vacca was named a top rated family law attorney in New York City 2020 Super Lawyer, awarded to only 5% of attorneys in New York State. Andrea has been named a New York Super Lawyer every year since 2014 for her outstanding work in divorce law.

Nothing good happens in court! I had a great conversation with Christina Previte, Esq., of NJ Divorce Solutions on the Divorce Happy Hour Podcast about keeping your divorce out of court (and why you should want to)!

On this podcast, we discuss why I decided to stop practicing traditional litigated divorce, and instead practice collaborative divorce, with a #NoCourtDivorce team approach to divorce. No one “wins” in divorce and that’s why I chose to stop litigating and use mediation and the collaborative approach. With either process, couples can come together, as a team, and negotiate a mutually agreeable divorce – without a judge making the decision about the future of their family.

We discuss 5 Reasons to Keep Your Divorce Out of Court – and how to decide what type of divorce is best for you and your spouse.

In this Wealth Matters Column in the New York Times, I talked about options that are available to couples who want to divorce while the courts are closed or backlogged during the coronavirus pandemic. The columnist, Paul Sullivan, was particularly interested in what options were available if people were negotiating child and spousal support agreements during this time when their financial situation may be precarious.

This was a great question because many couples may know that their marriage is over but they don’t know how they can divorce if there are economic uncertainties. My best advice to these couples is to do everything you can to stay out of court so that you can negotiate an agreement that is flexible enough to address financial changes in the future. For example:

1. If you are not working now, we can draft the child support or spousal agreement to state what will happen if you return to work in the future.

Andrea Vacca on THe Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
I was interviewed on the Kate Anthony Divorce Survival Podcast about how Collaborative Divorce offers a way to bring respect to the divorce process and work with professionals who model the behavior you wish to express. In the end, everyone’s going to be better off; you, your spouse, and most importantly, your children:

We discuss Collaborative Divorce as a process that includes creating a roadmap for your divorce and specifically details the jobs for each member of the team, including:

  1. How you will be working together

Divorce Considerations During the Coronavirus Crisis | Divorce Attorney Andrea Vacca | Vacca Family Law Group

In any divorce, there are 3 key stages: the first divorce consideration is the decision about whether to divorce, the second is moving forward through the divorce process you’ve chosen, and the third is finalizing the details of the divorce. This is true whether you’re divorcing at a time when the outside world is relatively stable or whether you’re moving through the process when there’s a global pandemic.

Regardless of where you may be in your divorce process, here are some tips for how to adjust to a constantly shifting environment and the timelines, expectations and assumptions you may have been counting on before the world was put on pause.

1. Deciding Whether to Divorce: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Vacca Family Law Group’s Virtual Office is Open For Business _ Andrea Vacca New York Divorce and Family Law Attorney | Vacca Family Law Group

With the well-being of our staff, our clients and our community as our top priority, the team at Vacca Family Law Group is working from home while the Covid-19 state of emergency restrictions are in place. Our virtual office is open for normal business hours and our team has the technology and resources to work remotely and continue to serve our clients during this time. That means you can schedule a video or telephone consultation with one of our attorneys or mediators to discuss your matter with the utmost discretion, privacy and flexibility. 

Contact Vacca Family Law Group at 212.768.1115 or click here to discuss how we can assist you during this difficult time.

New York collaborative divorce and mediation lawyer Andrea Vacca spoke to Marysol Castro of Pix11 Morning News and was asked whether there really is a divorce season (the answer is YES!) and to offer some divorce tips for how to navigate the early stages of divorce. Thanks to Elizabeth Martin for sharing her divorce story. 

WATCH: NYC Divorce Attorney Andrea Vacca: How to Navigate the Early Stages of Divorce

https://youtu.be/_pDMrcvdmEs

Find out why millennials are the fastest-growing group of people are asking for prenuptial agreements and some issues to consider if you think a prenup may be something you need.

 WATCH: 5 Issues To Consider If You’re Thinking About a Prenup by Family Law Attorney Andrea Vacca

https://youtu.be/8KFHQEANrjg

If you are one of the millions of people who got engaged on Valentine’s Day: Congratulations! It may feel too soon to start talking about the details of your actual wedding, but I can assure you that it’s never too early to start talking about a prenuptial agreement. That’s because talking about a prenup is a financial and emotional conversation that’s only going to get more difficult the closer you get to the wedding day. During this early stage of your engagement, you and your fiancé are likely to be in alignment on the future that you plan to have together. That makes this the perfect time to talk about what a marriage and an economic partnership mean to each of you based on your respective values, goals and ideas around money. Starting the prenup process early helps to treat your future relationship with the respect that it’s due.

That’s not to say it won’t be uncomfortable to have this conversation. But, being uncomfortable for the sake of your relationship is one of the most romantic things you can do. If you don’t believe me, maybe you’ll believe Stassi Schroeder from Vanderpump Rules “I feel like people look at that as like a dirty thing that we shouldn’t talk about, but it’s honestly, I feel like there is some romanticism to it and being able to be so close to someone that you’re willing to have those uncomfortable conversations.”

If you’re convinced that this is something you need to start thinking about now, then you may be wondering: